2017 was good to us as a family but I didn’t manage to address the things I wanted to.
So for 2018 I have a few things I want to focus on. I know the professionals don’t advise that you concentrate on too many things at once! But life is too short, a year too long and I have too many things to work on, to only concentrate on 1 a year. Plus I read that it will take about 30 days to change a habit.
So I figured, one thing to concentrate on a month.
January – healthy eating. This for me means planning, shopping, prepping, cooking and enjoying the food.
February- Friends had a tough time of it last year and I feel that I never put myself out there enough to offer assistance to actually make a difference. So this month is about helping others.
Over these 2 months I also want to look at no longer snoozing my alarm and keeping on top of the housework. This is a biggie!!!
I got to the end of 2017 and felt a little burnt out. Trying to keep on top of work, family, friends, house really got the better of me. So the biggest thing I need to concentrate on is this –
GETTING MY PARTNER TO SHARE THE LOAD. Before going back to full time work in August 2016 I did everything in the house and I mean absolutely everything and worked 12 hours out of the house. I was a SAHM and I loved it so that was my role. Before I found the job I wanted, we discussed that we would have to share the load but we never got down to the nitty gritty. You could say I hoped to avoid the conversation and for it to just fall into place. It didn’t and hasn’t.
So now we need to have that conversation! I work 38 hours and do everything in the house. And I mean everything, right down to doing reading books with our 7 year old. But no more!
Thanks for reading. I’ll be back shortly with an update and the next two months focus xx
Oo I forgot to say that my word of the year is Today! I’ll explain later
This week will be a hard slog. 3 days at work and summer camp, then off camping Wednesday evening. The trailer isn’t ready! The house is a bomb site after a week off making memories. This weekend was a bust after getting totally plastered with the school mums on Friday. Saturday spent hungover on the sofa and today my eibs feel like the are completly bruised and cracked! A humongous pile of laundry to get through. It is also my baby brothers 21st birthday tomorrow. Am I an awful human being for being thankful that he doesn’t want a family meal, we really don’t have the time. Then it is my brother-in-law’s birthday on Tuesday and parentals anniversary on Wednesday. Which is just adding to a long list of things to do. I am huge on family and it isn’t the obligation that it sounded like! I just wish I had more hours in the day to do what needs to be done and celebrate with the people who matter and still manage to get some proper sleep.
I can but dream and persevere
I just need to send this out into nowhere. Hoping it will clear my heart and head; that I can then get over the guilt and move on.
I’m nearly at the end of a week off work for the summer holidays. Now the holidays are 6 weeks long so I feel kind of a failure. And to top it off, I failed at arranging a single play date for my 6 year old. I will admit I was starting to worry…. Is he not liked, do the other children just not want to play with him.
Now obviously I can’t just ask a parent out right, as no parent wants to tell another that their kid doesn’t want to play. I’ve found there are two reasons for this- 1 Kids are fickle. One day they act like they have never met each other and the next are best friends. 2 What if one day that is their child, or what if said child has a party, and then their kid isn’t invited. Believe me, after standing in a playground listening to conversations, some parents actually think like this. I will admit to then clocking which is their child and make a note to see if they are as calculating as the parent!
Should I be worried, I doubt it! I think it just self flagellation to the mummy guilt of crappy parenting. I left it kind of late to arrange, and once you ask one parent, you need to wait for a response before inviting another child. Which led to a reply on Wednesday for plans on Thursday & Friday. Turns out most of his school friends are on holiday or too short notice!
He was invited to 1 play date this week and turns out that she had problems with people responding, being busy and in one case, just forgetting. But this still didn’t ease my guilt, made worse by me sending him to the parentals for a night so we, i.e me hubby and friends can go bowling. I will point out that his Grampy is his hero and apart from daddy, is his favourite person. This still doesn’t assuage my mummy guilt
So I have done my best to keep him happy and entertained this week. But have I just made a rod for my own back. Now every school holiday he will expect 2 activities a day and constant entertaining!
So now I find myself planning ridiculous things in my head and thanks to Pinterest, for the next half term!
Will we ever learn and let kids just be bored?
I’m having a play around with some new formats. I’m not happy with how it looks. It doesn’t reflect who I am. How our family dynamic works. So I’m going to be trying a few different things.
I’m even researching courses to get myself back up to speed on social media. I’m enjoying being on Instagram. Its easy and quick and now I have found that I can post on the go to here on the app here’s hoping I get regular posts on here.
Thanks for reading
Don’t judge your beginning
By someone elses middle
This is my new feature. Every week I will post pictures from the previous week. It will only be 5-7 pictures, with only a caption to describe it. Nothing arduous.
I will post about other things, in more detail or to strike up a discussion. Or to just ramble on and get my crazy thoughts out of my head. Or just because I found a beautiful quote I want to share.
Yes I am still around. I have just reread my last post and realised how long its been since I blogged, and that I had loads and loads of stuff to share that had happened before then. And loads since. So this week I will be writing everyday to catch you all up.
Stay with me, we’ve been busy.
See you tomorrow
Thanks for still reading