My partner is more like my housemate. We share the same space, we talk only about our child, the programs we watch together and any upcoming plans we have. That is the usual sum total of our interactions.
But over the weekend something happened. We reconnected.
It was strange and it was amazing.
This is what happened:
Our little man wanted to play a game. It was houses/mummies and daddies. He became the dad and we (big man and I) became his children, Annabel and Isaac. It was a normal day. He woke us up, got us ready for school and then herded us into the car. I decided I was going to play up. Be impossible. Basically become my son! Awkward in the mornings just like he is ::I’m laughing as I write this because it was funny:: My little man was starting to get very frustrated with me and sulked off at this point because I wasn’t playing properly. Big man decided to play along as I was. We started to play fight and wind each other up. As siblings do.
Now our little man is livid with us and all we could do was roll around his bedroom laughing. I can not remember the last time we both laughed out loud together that wasn’t from watching the telly. And lets be honest we weren’t laughing together. We just happened to be sitting next to each other.
That was all it took! A truly shared experience, both being present in that moment.
We did eventually play how the little man wanted us to but it was enough for us connect.
For the rest of the weekend we laughed, touched and looked at each other. Enjoyed each others company.
I hope everyone had their own moment over the weekend. How ever it happened or with whoever, hold on to it for as long as you can.
These moments are fleeting. We need to work to keep it going.